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The Science of Reconnecting: Alleviating Loneliness Through Rediscovered Friendships

This week I’ve had the profound pleasure of running an ELT workshop for a large Health Insurer and also being part of the Digital Health Festival 2023 at the convention centre in Melbourne. Both engagements had me bumping into old friends that I’ve worked with over the years and it really did bring to life just how powerful human connection, friendships and social interaction is.

Human beings are inherently social creatures, and the connections we form with others significantly influence our wellbeing. Among these connections, friendships hold a special place, offering emotional support, companionship, and a sense of belonging. However, life often leads us on divergent paths, and the absence of these friendships can lead to feelings of loneliness. Reconnecting with long-lost friends can be a transformative experience that not only brings joy but also has a profound impact on alleviating loneliness and improving our overall health and wellbeing.

Loneliness is a complex emotional state characterized by a perceived discrepancy between desired and actual social connections. It is not merely an emotional discomfort but also has significant implications for our physical and mental health. Research has shown that chronic loneliness can contribute to increased risk of various health issues, including cardiovascular diseases, depression, anxiety, and even mortality (Holt-Lunstad et al., 2015; Hawkley & Cacioppo, 2010). Understanding the detrimental effects of loneliness underscores the importance of addressing this issue by reconnecting with friends.

Reconnecting with long-lost friends can have a transformative effect on alleviating loneliness. When we reestablish social ties and nurture friendships, we experience a renewed sense of connection and belonging. Scientific studies have demonstrated the positive impact of social reconnection on reducing loneliness. In a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, researchers found that reconnecting with a close friend led to a significant decrease in loneliness levels among participants (Masi et al., 2011). By reigniting these relationships, we tap into a vital source of social support that can counteract the feelings of isolation and loneliness that may have emerged over time.

Reconnecting with long-lost friends also has a profound effect on our emotional wellbeing. Studies have shown that social connections, including friendships, play a pivotal role in our mental health and happiness. Rekindling old friendships allows for reminiscing and sharing positive experiences, leading to feelings of nostalgia, joy, and happiness. Research published in the Journal of Happiness Studies suggests that reconnecting with friends can significantly contribute to overall life satisfaction and subjective well-being (Demir, 2008). These emotional benefits further alleviate loneliness and improve our overall mental well-being.

Loneliness often arises from a lack of social support, which is a crucial protective factor for our health and wellbeing. Reconnecting with friends expands our social support network, providing opportunities for emotional and practical support. Research indicates that having a robust social support system buffers the negative effects of stress and promotes resilience (Uchino, 2009). By fostering and nurturing these reconnections, we cultivate a support system that bolsters our psychological resilience and positively impacts our health outcomes.

Loneliness is a pervasive issue with far-reaching consequences for our physical and mental health. Fortunately, reconnecting with long-lost friends can serve as a powerful antidote to alleviate loneliness and enhance our overall wellbeing. By reaching out and nurturing these connections, we can counteract the detrimental effects of loneliness, improving our mental health, and fostering a greater sense of belonging and fulfillment.

So, take a step today to reconnect with that long-lost friend. Embrace the opportunity to alleviate loneliness, nurture your wellbeing, and experience the transformative power of friendship.


  1. Holt-Lunstad, J., Smith, T. B., Baker, M., Harris, T., & Stephenson, D. (2015). Loneliness and social isolation as risk factors for mortality: A meta-analytic review. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 10(2), 227-237.

  2. Hawkley, L. C., & Cacioppo, J. T. (2010). Loneliness matters: A theoretical and empirical review of consequences and mechanisms. Annals of Behavioral Medicine, 40(2), 218-227.

  3. Masi, C. M., Chen, H. Y., Hawkley, L. C., & Cacioppo, J. T. (2011). A meta-analysis of interventions to reduce loneliness. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 15(3), 219-266.

  4. Demir, M. (2008). Sweetheart, you really make me happy: Romantic relationship quality and personality as predictors of happiness among emerging adults. Journal of Happiness Studies, 9(2), 257-277.

  5. Uchino, B. N. (2009). Understanding the links between social support and physical health: A lifespan perspective with emphasis on the separability of perceived and received support. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 4(3), 236-255.

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